Shortly after that incident, I learned about Flylady, and subscribed to her email blasts for a time. I credit her with helping me develop routines at home that I relied on for years. What really stuck was how well she understood that perfectionism keeps us stuck. It keeps us from starting something if we don’t have time to do it perfectly, it raises the bar higher than we can ever reach and makes us less satisfied with our lives.
Back then, I wouldn’t clean my floors unless I could sweep and mop everything at once, shake out all of the rugs, and put clean ones down. The result of this was that I didn’t do it very often, so instead of getting the worst of it taken care of and looking decent, I didn’t do it at all. It looked and felt terrible, hardly perfect. Sometimes that old saying,” if you’re going to do it, do it right,” keeps us from doing it at all.
As always, becoming aware is the beginning to making change, then redirecting ourselves without judgment. I still have to challenge myself to let go of this mental clutter years after becoming aware of it. You may have watched my Breather videos and noticed that they are not perfect. Some may say they are not very professional. But I knew that if I waited until I thought they were perfect, I would never post one. So there I am, scratching my leg and all, and actually very happy that I can put something out in the world without worrying about being perfect. Not pretending to be perfect is great progress. Elaine, I’ve come a long way from chipped toenail polish making me crazy!
So how is the mental clutter of perfect showing up in your life? What are you not doing because you don’t have the time to “do it right?” Find some task or project at work or at home and just start, and quiet this harsh critic in your head. Any progress is good, getting unstuck is even better.